Friendship…

10 Dec 2011 5 Comments

by yeeeeed in Uncategorized

Friendship is undoubtedly a central part of my life.

We need friends for companionship, conversations and laughter, but the real virtue of friendship lies in the support that we get from our friends, and the concern that they show.

The value of friendship is something I rarely take time to ponder over and appreciate, and it may be said that I often take my friends for granted. All too often I only realise the value of friendship when I find myself in need of a friend: when I need a shoulder to cry on, then I understand the importance of friendship in my life.

Many people entering our lives, some for a short time, others longer. We form a bond of true friendship with only a select few, those that move with us through the stages of our lives.

I’ve always valued friendship, but the true value of friendship has really dawned on me these last few weeks. The friends I have lost, in recent weeks, will always leave a mark.

Losing such a friend can make you doubt your character and personality, and makes you ask, “If only I had not done this or said that…” but also you find yourself wondering “If only I didn’t care so much about this person…” However, despite that sadness, slowly you begin to cling to the happy memories, the laughter, the jokes and shared experiences.

I am so lucky to have found such fabulous friends in Bangor, I feel completely blessed. I admit, the turbulent past few weeks have acted to remind me never to take them for granted, but I guess it is true -“A woman is like a tea bag; you never know how strong it is until it’s in hot water.”…edit this slightly, and it sums up the amazing nature of friends.

Friendship, to me,  is a source of personal happiness, but, at least in my eyes, I cannot consider a person a friend if I do not value them for their own sake!  There are many things we value about friendship; aspects that can be seen from the outside such as spending time together and doing activities together. But the values in friendship, the intrinsic values, are what make friendships a core part of an individual and, to an extent,  their personality.